As I mentioned in my 2 previous blogs, I had the privilege of attending the Women’s Prosperity Network’s strategic planning session event this month. WPN recently partnered with the JT Foxx organization to provide coaching services to their members. During the session a very powerful educator and coach named Teresa Brooks got up to discuss goal setting, what coaching is and why we each need a coach.
Here are some of the Teresa “nuggets of gold” that I came away with.
- Fear makes the wolf appear bigger.
- The lesson is the gift even if the teacher is pain.
- Change happens when our status quo is no longer serving us.
- Make your goals juicy goals.
- Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.
- Visualize … rehearse your future.
- I don’t stop when I’m tired. I stop when I’m done.
- The mind once expanded will never return to its original size.
I have had the honor and the privilege of being advised by Stedman Graham this past year. Stedman is like EF Hutton. When he speaks, you listen! His sage words are so deep that they are two levels beyond the actual words of the conversation. By listening “hard”, you can capture the nuances behind his words.
Here’s a question to each of us. Do you have a coach? If so, great! Make sure that your coach is stretching you to achieve more than you ever believed possible. This stretch might be a little uncomfortable at first but you can work your way into it. It should not stretch you to the point of breaking – like a balloon popping. It should inflate you to your full potential.
If you don’t have a coach, why don’t you have one? Aren’t you worth it? The best of the best have coaches. The reason that they do is because we as human beings are too close to ourselves. It’s like not being able to see the forest through the trees. We need another set of eyes, ears and a brain – someone who has already been there to guide us through the terrain. This guidance can get us to our destinations faster and with less effort – less trial and error.
Some of you might be thinking that you can’t afford a coach. Coaching can be found within everyone’s price range but even if you don’t have a coach, do you at least have a Mastermind group? These are people who you can call on to brainstorm with you about “where to” from here. They might be colleagues, friends or trusted advisors. Choose people who know more than you in the important areas of your life. They can meet with you one-on-one or the group of you can come together as a team to advise each other. We’ve heard that two heads are better than one. The goal is to brainstorm on the best next steps for you.
Here are my final questions to pose. What is your support structure? Who is in it? Is it serving you?